Is your child under too much pressure?? (taken from the Parent Institute)
A little pressure can be a good thing. It can help us meet deadlines. It can force us to get organized. It can give us the boost we need to do our best. But too much stress can be harmful--for adults and for children. Today's children face adults and for children. Today's children face
more pressures than any other generation--and they need help dealing with them. Here's how you can create a family atmosphere that will help you examine and reduce the stresses that may be facing your child.
Setting Priorities: Do the right things right!
Trying to do too much can be a major cause of stress. Learning to set priorities is one of the best ways that children can deal with the stress in their lives.Teach your children an important rule of time management. It's not enough to do things right. It's more important to do the right things right. If your child has trouble using time wisely, have her make a list of everything she wants to do. Then set priorities. What's the most important? Only when she's done the right things right can she move on to those lower priority items.
Are you putting too much pressure on your child?
A recent study asked children to name their biggest worry. They said it was the intense pressure to do well in school and sports.
Some questions you could ask yourself:
1) When you watch your child in an athletic event, do you criticize his performance afterwards? Or do you try to focus on the "fun" of playing the game?
2) What happens when your child brings home a test? Do you first talk about the questions she got wrong? Or do you look for what she got right?
3) Do most of your conversations with your child focus on the things she hasn't done? Or do you try to say something positive as often as possible?